As my friends and family know I am on a road to recovery, which entails me being rather sensitive at times and if something upsets me it might come across as the worst thing in the world, which has led me to write about forgiveness. I recently had someone hurt me (with words) and I felt it a bit difficult to shake the feeling of hurt off of me. Yes I am a spiritual person but I am still just a human with feelings and i’m also a sensitive soul. After tossing and turning I finally managed to let go and feel better about this particular topic. So I am going to share with you how I did it and I hope by sharing this information I will be able to help someone else who finds themselves in a similar situation.
First of all I went to the person who I trust more then anyone in the world (my partner) and she really managed to calm me down and say some nice things to me which almost instantly helped me. Then I had a good nap. About halfway through the night I ended up with a up with a plate of pizza in bed. So maybe comfort food is not the best thing because I’ve woken up with a bit of a sore belly and still a sore heart. As I laid in my bed I felt so sad and I didn’t want to feel this way anymore so I decided to do a bit of a meditation which made me think about the situation. I realised I had to just let go and release this pain. I closed my eyes and I asked for divine help.
Nelson Mandela once said “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies” and we all know he managed to forgive and a lot of terrible things happened to him. So if he can do it then so can we.
Although my situation was not quite as brutal it was still significant as I felt hurt and betrayed, but the truth is that holding onto something will hold you back from being all you are meant to be. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you have to instantly trust someone again because forgiveness and trust are two very different things. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to condone what someone has done and you don’t even have to keep that person in your life but if you can forgive you will feel a whole lot better.
First you have to forgive yourself. You might be thinking “how could I have been so stupid and naive”. You have to realise that this situation like every other situation is an opportunity to strengthen your soul. Whenever I get over that initial pain I ask myself “what can I learn from this and how can I grow?” Then I find the will to forgive the person who hurt me by asking the Divine for help. The help that I got was to stand in that other persons shoes and to be them and to feel how they feel. I thought about how this could of happened and I think about what they have been through in life. Whether they have a current situation or whether they have had something happen to them in their past that has made them this way. I actually ended up feeling really sorry for this person because hurt people hurt people. This does not mean that I condone the behaviour of people that hurt me, it just gives me the strength to move on. Whether I move on or never see this person again that is not the issue but when you can forgive that will be when you can truly move on and be happy.